How to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce?
When a relationship ends, it can be a painful journey, so take this time to re-focus your priorities, build your self-esteem, and look inward. Stop for a moment and ask yourself…What have I always wanted to do, to see, to be? This is your opportunity to embrace a new and better life.
Be Open to Change
Open your mind to new things and new possibilities. Start by changing the way you think. If you let negative thoughts creep into your mind, then you will be stuck in the past and it will be that much harder to live in the present moment. Free those thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. You can begin your new positive mantra by starting your sentence with the words… “I deserve…”
It is OK to set boundaries and say NO to things that you don’t want to do. This is a time to reflect upon what you want. You are not obligated to anyone but yourself and your needs. If you don’t like the person you’ve been hanging out with because they suck your energy or your X is asking you to do something you don’t want to do, then SAY NO! You’d be surprised how empowering it is.
Let Go of the Past
This is much harder said than done, but once you let go, and accept your new life and your new circumstances, you will feel much freer. At some time you will question whether that life, as you knew it, ever really existed. It did exist, it was beautiful, it’s the past and now you are starting a new chapter. So appreciate today and all the great things that are yet to arrive into your life.
Ask For Guidance
You’re not alone on this journey so put your faith in a higher power and trust that you’re in this uncomfortable situation to find courage, draw strength, grow and become a better human being. Ask God for guidance when you’re at a crossroads and the answer will be clear.
Listen to your inner voice.
Trust Your Intuition
Most people have an innate sense of intuition, but when life is comfortable, they stop listening. Intuition is something indescribable – it’s a feeling, an insight, a reflection. Start paying attention. If you have a feeling that something is wrong, or your life is out of balance, it probably is. Trust your intuition!
Find Your Inner Strength & Courage
It takes strength and courage to move on from a break-up. It’s a loss of love and a mourning process. Finding the courage to get out of bed every morning, shower, rally your children and work, feels like a chore. At times, it may seem unbearable, but the truth is, ‘you will survive’ and your wounds will heal with time. Be strong, find that inner motivation, and others will look to you for strength.
The more challenging the situation, the more room for growth and self-awareness. Think and act outside of the box and life will bring you unlimited possibilities. We, as human beings are resilient and when we are challenged and succeed, we build confidence in our ability so…try something new and different. Feel the fear and do it anyway!
The time is about YOU! Reflect on what makes you happy and what makes you smile and do more of it. Finish the sentence…
My favorite thing to do is…
I am happiest when…
I’ve always wanted to be…
Attract Positive People Who Support Your Life Purpose
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good and feed and support your purpose in life. Look inside for that purpose. Is it writing a book? Starting a new job? Traveling? Having kids? When you finally figure out what you are supposed to be doing then you won’t feel like you’re “swimming upstream” anymore and pushing against the current. It will feel like you’re swimming downstream and like-minded people will be swimming along side you, helping you achieve your dream.